From feeling exhausted and dizzy for every moment of the day, to a week and a half of hypomania (with the attendant overspending, over talking, over committing at work, and under delivering) I’m back to something approximating normal.
It’s a hell of a hangover. Financially, physically, emotionally, socially.
I can’t talk about this out loud. I’ve had a lot of conversations with myself in the shower. But I can’t get the words out of my mouth. If I say it, then I have to hear it. And I don’t believe myself when I say it. Or perhaps I do believe it but I can’t accept it. Or I don’t want to accept it and saying it out loud, having another human hear me, makes it real.
I’m not bruised by these extreme intervals, I decided today. I think I’ve called it that in the past. Bruise is the wrong word. Bruises fade and leave no sign they ever existed. They don’t change your physiology.
I feel scarred.
Scared. Scarred.
A week of hypomania feels like I’ve lost something. Not money or trust or friendship, although that’s sometimes true. But a piece of me. Something of me, something really fundamental that you only get a finite amount of. It feels like that is chipped away or burned up and lost.
In time, that missing piece will seem less starkly absent. But I’ll always be a little different for its loss.
That happens once or twice and maybe you’ve got enough to spare that it doesn’t really change you at your core. Doesn’t deform your soul. But how many times have I done this now? How many times before there is more absent than there is me? What am I after strips of me have peeled away in one crisis or another?
I am afraid
I remember the feeling of isolation. Not sadness, as such, at that. Just an absolute certainty of being apart from everyone around me. Communicating with my partner out of habit and a knowledge of that mattering but without a solid core sense of ‘connection’. I didn’t feel I needed anyone. But I was desperate to be with everyone all the time. I couldn’t hear anyone else, operating in a deeply solipsistic haze, going through the motions of asking after everyone else.
I hate that. I hate who I was – who I am? How long until that’s all there is?
I was afraid, I am still afraid, of how isolated I felt. This paragraph and the above were both true. Needing nobody, terrified of having nobody. Needing people to see how fast I was running, terrified nobody would notice and therefore confirm my fear that this isn’t real, isn’t legitimate, which is also my absolute conviction. A bipolar relationship to every element of this. See me/don’t notice me, be with me/I don’t need anyone, I’m invulnerable/I’m desperate
I can’t say any of this out loud. The words die in my throat. It’s true and it’s not true. Absurdly dramatic and self mythologising and so fantastically real that it’s too much like exposure.
I want to go to sleep and wake up and find the last 3 weeks never happened.